Have you ever wished there was a manual for surviving divorce and co-parenting? So did we! That's why we created this page to help other women, men, and families that are going through the same situations. See how we manage our chaotic blended family, while trying to survive this thing called life, and build a bond stronger than anything you can imagine.
Watch as we laugh, cry, scream, and most importantly...spill the beans on our crazy lives.
“Your child will become what you are. So be what you want them to be.”
After divorce, you begin to heal and rebuild your life. You start with letting go, forgiving, and moving on.
We do all that we can to forget our ex and the painful ending of what was supposed to last forever.
For most people, divorce means not having to see your ex as often, or at all. It means taking time to work on yourself and fix all that was broken during the demise of the relationship.
“Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory.”
-Dr. Seuss
Throughout our lives, we will encounter good and bad. We will experience evil and virtue.
In all those instances, there is only one thing we can control…how we choose to react to them. Often, lousy things happen to great people; favorable things happen to dreadful people. It is not up to us to decide who gets what.
“Love comes to those who still hope after disappointment, who still believe after betrayal, and who still love after they’ve been hurt."
No one plans on getting divorced. Unfortunately, the statistics on marriages that end in divorce are shocking. Those numbers make an alarming increase for second and third marriages.
“Whatever you do, please don’t waste your time comparing yourself to others. There is enough room for us all to be beautiful and successful in our own way.
Moving on after a divorce can be difficult. If you are brave enough to look for and find true love a second (or third) time, consider yourself lucky.
When you decide to give marriage another go, it is normal for the ghosts from relationships past to creep into your new-found joy. The key is not allowing it to stick around.
“The truth is, of course, that what one regards as interruptions are precisely one’s life.” - C.S Lewis
Remember being young and planning your life – when you would get married, where you were going to live, how long you would wait to have children, and what they would look like.
If we were betting women, we are guessing that you did not likely plan on having a ready-made family.
That’s ok; neither did we!
“The only perfect parents are the ones that don’t have kids yet.”
While no two people are exactly the same, we are certain everyone would agree that parenting can be difficult at times.
We have stated before – there is no manual for parenting. The doctors and nurses that help you bring your fascinating little creatures into this world, quickly send you on your merry way to fend for yourself. They watch as you cheerfully leave the hospital with such high hopes of breaking the mold of parenthood. Meanwhile, before the ink dries on the discharge papers, the hospital staff sit cackling in the corner knowing they have just sent you to battle, unarmed, unprepared, and unaware of just how much sleep you are about to NOT receive.
“And she was made to appear crazy by the man who drove her there.”
There are so many factors that affect a relationship. Age, maturity, and mindset all play a part in how we treat those we love and vice versa.
Not every relationship has a fairytale beginning. All love stories are different and unique in their own way. Some a little more conventional than others but all are beautiful, nonetheless.
“One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.” -Brene Brown
No one plans the fall of a marriage. Even those of us that walk into a marriage with concerns or uncertainty - ye of little faith - still hold on to some sort of hope that we will defy the odds and our love will last.
If your marital bliss turns to marital misery, then you must make a difficult decision.
“One day you will find someone that chooses you and continues to choose you every day, and that’s when you will be thankful everything happened the way it did."
When you think about co-parenting, you most likely imagine biological parents that are no longer together, reuniting as a team to raise the children they created during their relationship.
While that is often the scene in our dynamic, occasionally it is not the case.
“Chances are your former spouse has a different parenting style than you, with some conflicting rules. Rather than stress yourself about these differences, learn to accept that life is never consistent and that it may actually be beneficial for your kids to experience other ways of doing things." -HuffPost Divorce
We have discussed the blending of our families many times before. In fact, our entire brand is based on co-parenting and blended families.