“One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up, instead of what they have to gain”
When marriages end, two people that were once one, go their separate ways and continue with their lives. When marriages end that involve children, it is nearly impossible for the exes to have zero communication. Afterall, they created life together and that fact does not dissipate because the marriage is over.
“Remain calm in every situation because peace equals power.” – Joyce Meyer
In divorce, it is often our children struggle the most. Their lives are disrupted, they go from home to home, and likely have completely different sets of rules and expectations at each house.
Adults that are going through a divorce will also have their own set of trials. However, unlike children, adults have a better-established set of coping mechanisms that children have not yet developed.
“Yes, she is just a mother. Which is sort of like looking at the sky and saying, hey it’s just the sun.”
The job of a mother is at times unrewarding, unrealistic, and unimaginable. Everyday dawns with a new set of challenges, that many of us are not equipped with the tools to handle. This job comes with no manual, no requirement of prior experience, and absolutely no sense of direction.
“It takes someone really brave to be a mother, someone strong to raise a child, and someone special to love someone more than she loves herself.”
It has been said many times before that divorce is like a death, both need to be grieved. One of the major differences in the two, is in death, people expect and almost force you to grieve. However, with divorce, people often do not understand the grieving process. The truth is, there is no right or wrong way, and there is no time limit on how long you must wait before you move on after divorce. We all handle things differently, and mourning a divorce is no different.
“The very act of looking for evil in others develops evil in those who look.”
John and I allowed a stranger into our home. That was not a normal occurrence for us, but this visitor had something that we desired...information to help our custody case. She declared that she knew the deepest, darkest secrets of the person that had been causing so much pain, anxiety, and torment in our lives for so long. We were desperate, and desperate times call for desperate measures.
After eight very long and traumatic years of marriage, and one week after my divorce was final, I thought it only appropriate to get married again. Don’t judge me just yet, there will be plenty of time for that later.
Yes, I got married one week after my first divorce was final. In my defense, we had been legally separated for three years. I cannot recall why it took us that long to get a divorce. If I am being honest, we may not have even been able to afford the divorce, or we were just stubborn and not willing to give in to the requests of the other party. I know for certain that it was not because either of us wanted to or thought we would ever get back together.
